‘It took 15 years to come out – but my fears were unfounded’

Coming out as gay in agriculture, Will Vaughan-France worried about how he would be seen by family and friends. His fears were unfounded; this is his story.

Will Vaughan France

Some things in life are obvious, others less so. Growing up on a farm in Somerset it was obvious from a very young age that I was destined to be working in agriculture, from my first word (“tractor”) to using a combination of Farmers Weekly, tractor books and brochures to learn to read.

Then, as I got a little older, asking the agronomist unreasonably difficult (and with hindsight most likely irrelevant) questions.

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Despite the attempts of some teachers to dissuade me from agriculture, the path was set and after A-levels I went to Reading University and attended the School of Agriculture.

My choice of Reading and a large urban university was not for reasons of sexuality, more to ensure I mixed with a broad range of people and learnt to talk about more than tractors.

Since university I have had an enjoyable career, first with Bidwells in consultancy for farming, supply chain and food businesses and then with Monsanto (now Bayer) in account management and technical positions. Currently, I manage the small arable farm that I grew up on, while looking at new opportunities in the industry.

Acceptance

Sadly, life outside work was rather less enjoyable. I have had the fortune of good friends, but never felt comfortable and certain about who I was until the last few years in my 30s.

I didn’t really accept being gay until I was 30. Despite the signs being obvious long before, it was the issue I didn’t feel I could deal with, especially when I wasn’t aware of those who had gone before me with this challenge in agriculture.

One of the barriers to me accepting myself was worrying about how I would be accepted within the industry I love. I spent 15 years worrying about it, which did nothing for my mental or physical health, let alone enjoyment of life.

I am sure that many people had worked it out – the lack of girlfriends and diversionary tactics whenever that topic of conversation arose must surely have been a sign.

It wasn’t until my 30s that I started to have many gay friends and through talking to them I started to feel more comfortable with who I was. The challenge of coming out was still to come, though, and it wasn’t one I looked forward to.

Then, while the sun was shining in mid-2018, I became aware of the Agrespect initiative via Twitter.

The most striking thing about Agrespect for me was the reaction the initiative and the stories were getting, with extraordinary support from across the industry.

This was uplifting to see and so my confidence started to rise. I made contact with some of those whose stories I had read to seek advice and support, and my confidence continued to increase.

What is Agrespect?

Agrespect was launched last year to break down barriers by sharing experiences from a diverse range of people working in agriculture, including the LGBTQ+ community.

The initiative is backed by major industry brands and bodies, which include the NFU, the AHDB, Massey Fergusson, Defra and Farmers Weekly.

To find out more, read the stories of the people the organisation supports and to get in touch, go to the website or search for Agrespect on FacebookTwitter and Instagram.

Confidence

Then in mid-November last year, I made the first step and told my parents. Their reaction was very positive and this made me so much happier as the ‘journey’ began.

Telling the rest of the family was very easy. Mum did it all with a level of efficiency I could not have matched. I then focused on friends – this is the stage I had always worried about more, with most of my friends involved in the industry in some way.

I made no further progress until early in the new year when a tipping point was reached and I began telling friends.

I thought it might take me a month or so to get the confidence to tell each one – in practice the responses were so positive I had told most people within a few days and I could, for the first time ever, tick off a New Year’s resolution (I am not counting a previous resolution to eat more chocolate, which was accomplished with even greater gusto).

I have not yet received a single negative comment. The slightly homophobic jokes have dried up and the banter has become a lot more fun since I could be honest with people.

I am now happier and healthier – both physically and mentally – and most importantly I can be myself without worrying. I have no doubt there will be some difficult times or people ahead, but my worries about coming out in this industry have proved unfounded.

I am extremely grateful to those behind the Agrespect initiative and those whose stories have gone before. It has made an enormous difference to me and one that has made my life happier.

It took 15 years to get to this place, but now I can focus on the future and get back to talking tractors.


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